If This Was My Last Day

Over the past couple of weeks I’ve been having fun getting acquainted with my new/used iPod Touch.  A big part of this has been downloading my favourite songs from iTunes.  One of the songs I downloaded was “If Today Was Your Last Day” by Nickelback.  After listening to it, I started thinking about what I would do if I knew that I only had one more month to live.  Here are my top five answers:

1)  I would stop doing things to please other people

I’m actually pretty good at this, but not as good as I’d like to be.  I still find myself, at times, doing something that goes against my better judgement, or something I just plain don’t want to do, just to make someone else happy or to avoid conflict.  If I knew my time on earth was limited, I’d still listen to the desires and opinions of others, and take them into consideration when I’m making a decision.  But, I would also make sure that I voiced my needs, desires, and opinions, and that they were heard.  And, if it was something that meant a lot to me, I would follow my heart and not my head, and go my own way.

2) I would listen to my heart and do what it tells me to do more often

I have found, through experience, that when I take the time to listen to my heart (aka inner voice, Spirit or intuition) and follow what it tells me, it is usually right – sometimes dramatically so.  But I still make most of my decisions using my head (logic) because, after all, isn’t it supposed to be right?  I know that following my heart is risky and takes courage.  If I knew I had nothing to lose, I’d throw caution to the wind and go for it – and be happier as a result.

3) I would spend my time with the people I love and who make me feel good about myself

It isn’t the things I’ve collected in my life, or the things that are waiting for me to complete on my “To Do” list that are truly important.  Instead, what is truly important are the relationships with people that I have built over the years.  The quality of the time and love we shared, the laughs we had, and the difference I made in their lives are what I will be remembered for.  I would spend my last few days with the people who meant the most to me in my life; those people who make me feel alive, appreciated and loved.   Like the song says, I’d call up those I haven’t spoken to in awhile to reminisce about our times together.  And “I love you” would become my favourite words!

4) I would do my best to make my dreams come true

Like many people I know, I have a “bucket list” of things I would like to do before I die.  These things include visiting Ireland and Newfoundland, living on the water and falling in love again.  If I only had a month to live, I would do my best to make as many of these things come true as I could.  I wouldn’t waste time on regretting that I hadn’t done them before now, or on the time I had wasted putting them off until I had enough money, until I retired, or until the time was right.  I would just go and DO them!    I would live every day to its fullest.  I would want to die with memories, not regrets.

5) I would ask for help and support

I have always been a pretty independent person, and often very proud of this fact.  But I have found out over the years that no man (or woman) is an island!  Too often in the past I convinced myself that I didn’t need other people – that I could do everything on my own.  And I learned the hard way that, no, I couldn’t.  If this was my last month,  I would not hesitate to ask people for help when I needed it.  I would put together a support circle of people that I knew that I could count on – and use them.   I would not go it alone.

After giving this list great thought, it occurred to me – why am I waiting?  Why does it have to be my last month on earth before I will do these things?  I should be doing them now, when they will make the most difference – to me and to the people I love and care about.  I SHOULD be spending my days listenting to my heart and following my dreams.  I SHOULD be spending my time with people who love and respect me.  And I SHOULD be asking people for help so that we can both learn and grow.  After working for nine years in a cancer centre, talking with people who were facing a life-threatening illness, I learned that life is too precious to put things off until tomorrow.  We should be living for today.  This is a big reason why I became a coach – to help others to live their best lives and to squeeze as much out of them as they can.  Like me, I want them to leave with only memories, no regrets.

You can live a life where you make your dreams come true.  I know because I have been there!  If you would like to take ACTION and move your dreams from mess to success, join me on Saturday, January 28, 2012 from 9:00 am until 4:00 pm at Windermere Manor in London for a one-day workshop filled with fun, fellowship and personal discovery!  At “It’s Not About Willpower” you will be given the tools you need to put your goals into ACTION and you will leave with a plan to make it happen.  Cost for the day is $97 + HST and includes lunch.  Move your dreams forward, visit www.brightenyourfuture.ca or email me at cathy@brightenyourfuture.ca today and invest in your future.